How can I save my marriage having food allergies.

Allergies  Interfere.

A romantic night out when your spouse suffers from food allergies is not only challenging but could be a very stressful situation for most couples.  

Wanting to share a meal is not simple at all.  Going out to enjoy a meal prepared by someone else and being vigilantly about avoiding the offending foods doesn't take away the fear and anxiety food allergic
individuals feel every time they walk into a restaurant.

When someone with food allergies begins dating it's hard, and unfortunately it doesn't go away even after getting married. Eating is supposed to be an easy way to spend time together,  to share an afternoon or evening.  When you are married to someone with food allergies, no matter how much you try, you will often feel like you are stuck with someone whose company is unpleasant until the check comes. No danger foods for you, no kissing if you ingested a danger food.  Airborne particles of food will also keep you on your toes.

If you love me why did you almost killed me with your cooking?

Loves you? Yeah, that same person could be the one that has or could  accidentally  'poison' you more than once.  The challenges this places on a relationship can't be ignored.  The non-allergic partner has to deal with feelings of guilt even if it wasn't their fault.  The allergic partner, of course, is dealing  not only with the discomfort of an allergic reaction but with the fear of dying.  

Food, water and shelter are basics of life that spouses trust they will provide for each other. But one accidentally induced food allergic reaction sends that trust out the door. It's a challenge. But not an insurmountable one. Since eating  is just too stressful look for food free dates.

Food free dates.

Although many couples keep their relationship alive by going out to eat, not having this luxury is not the end of the world. Here are some ideas:

Hiking:   gorgeous mountain vistas, lovely hidden breathtaking glimpse of nature.

Pool Halls and Bowling Alleys: Although many of these establishments also sell food, you can call ahead and decide how safe it sounds for your own unique allergen. If you focus on the game, you don't have to worry about looking awkward when you aren't eating.

Classes:  take a new class and learn a foreign language, or how to dance. These options may be a little more expensive than going out to eat, but they're still a good way to connect. And a lot more practical than a single meal.

More than Art Museums:  art, sex toys history, aviation, toys. Discuss how much you like or disliked them, just like you would after a restaurant visit.

Walking: Pretend you're a tourist, look for local walking tours. You won't believe how many new things you can discover about the town you live in.


Share this post

Leave a comment

Note, comments must be approved before they are published